Becoming a surrogate is a generous, life-changing decision — but it’s natural to have lots of questions before and during the journey. Surrogates want to feel informed, supported, and confident every step of the way.
To help clear up common concerns, we answered the top questions surrogates often ask us. Whether you’re considering becoming a surrogate or already matched with intended parents, here’s what you need to know.
1. What’s the Difference Between Traditional and Gestational Surrogacy?
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In gestational surrogacy you carry a baby created from the intended parents’ or donors’ egg and sperm, so you are not genetically related to the baby. In traditional surrogacy, your own egg is used, meaning you are the biological mother. Industry guidelines support Gestational surrogacy, since it has clearer legal protections for all parties involved.
2. How Will My Health Be Protected During Pregnancy?
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Your health and safety are top priorities. You’ll undergo thorough medical and psychological screenings before starting. During the pregnancy, you’ll have regular prenatal care and be closely monitored. Surrogacy agreements also require you have insurance coverage that covers maternity care.
3. What Kind of Support Will I Have During the Process?
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You won’t be alone. Agencies provide counseling, medical support, and coordination. You’ll have a team—including doctors, coordinators and a legal adviser to answer questions and help manage any challenges. Plus, many surrogates connect with others through online groups and locally for emotional support.
4. How Much Time Does Surrogacy Take from Start to Finish?
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Typically, the entire surrogacy journey takes about 12 to 14 months. From matching and legal paperwork through IVF, pregnancy, and delivery. This timeline can vary depending on individual medical circumstances and legal requirements.
5. What Are the Legal Protections for Surrogates?
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A comprehensive legal contract outlines your rights, responsibilities, and compensation. It ensures you won’t have parental rights over the baby and protects you throughout pregnancy and after birth. You will also have your own independent attorney to review the agreement with you.
6. How Much Will I Be Compensated?
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Compensation varies based on location, experience, and agency policies but generally ranges from $45,000 to $60,000. This includes monthly stipends, medical expenses, maternity clothing, travel reimbursements, and potentially additional fees for multiples or C-sections.
7. Can I Stay Connected with the Intended Parents?
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Most surrogates develop warm, supportive relationships with intended parents, sharing updates and milestones during the pregnancy. The level of contact is agreed upon beforehand to respect everyone’s comfort and boundaries. After the delivery, many surrogates treasure their lifelong connection and friendship with their intended parents.
8. What Happens If There Are Pregnancy Complications?
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Your health is the top priority. Medical professionals will manage any complications, and your insurance and legal protections cover necessary care. Agencies and intended parents provide emotional and logistical support throughout. And if needed, compensation is also provided for lost wages, childcare, and housekeeping to ensure you’re fully supported during the journey.
9. How Will I Handle the Emotional Aspect of Giving the Baby to the Intended Parents?
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It’s completely normal to feel a range of emotions — pride, joy, and sometimes even sadness. Agencies are here to support you emotionally throughout the journey and after the birth, helping you process your experience every step of the way. Along with agency support, some surrogates find counseling and peer support helpful during this time too.
10. What’s the Most Important Advice for New Surrogates?
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Be honest with yourself about your needs and feelings. Take good care of your physical and emotional health. Communicate openly with your agency and intended parents. And remember, you’re giving an amazing gift by helping your intended parents create their family!
Final Thoughts
Surrogacy is a beautiful and generous gift that requires courage and lots of care. Being informed and supported empowers you to navigate your journey with confidence and compassion.
If you’re considering becoming a surrogate or want more information, reach out to our professionals and we can guide you through every step.