Dealing with infertility and accepting the reality that you need help having a baby, is often difficult. We “what if” ourselves a lot. We bargain, cry and become angry. When we are given the news that to have a child, we need to rely on a gestational carrier, not only can that be a big pill to swallow, but we need to think about if this is something we are ready for.
Making the choice to have a baby via gestational surrogacy is a decision that is going to affect a lot of people. These situations are intimate and delicate and it can take a toll on everyone’s emotions. There is so much to take in, work through, process and consider – the feelings of your surrogate as well as her family, your unborn baby, and yourself.
The biggest question you must ask yourself is, how do you feel about someone else other than yourself, carrying a baby on your behalf?
If you are married or partnered, are you both ready and on the same page?
If you are single, do you have a good support system in place to help you through this process?
Have you thought about how you are going to talk about surrogacy, and the explanations surrounding this, to your family, friends and most importantly to your child?
Then of course, you must think about everything from selecting a surrogate, to medical procedures, the legal process, travel considerations and the delivery plan.
All these things can be talked through, worked out and processed with the help of a professional team that will help you navigate and facilitate the experience.