Starting the journey to parenthood through surrogacy is exciting, but it often comes with many questions. Whether you’re just beginning to explore surrogacy or already deep in the process, it’s normal to wonder about every step, from legal concerns to emotional support.
To help you feel more confident and informed, we answered some of the most common questions intended parents ask. Here’s what you need to know:
1. How Do We Find the Right Surrogate?
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Most intended parents work with a reputable surrogacy agency that carefully screens and matches surrogates based on health, experience, personality, and values. It’s important to find someone you feel comfortable with and trust, since this partnership is key to a successful journey.
2. What’s the Difference Between Gestational and Traditional Surrogacy?
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In gestational surrogacy, the surrogate carries an embryo created from the intended parents’ or donors’ egg and sperm — meaning she has no genetic connection to the baby. In traditional surrogacy, the surrogate uses her own egg and is genetically related to the child. Gestational surrogacy is more common due to clearer legal protections.
3. How Long Does the Surrogacy Process Take?
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From initial consultations to birth, the process usually takes between 12 and 24 months. This includes matching with a surrogate, legal agreements, medical screening, IVF cycles, pregnancy, and delivery.
4. What Are the Legal Steps We Need to Take?
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Surrogacy laws vary by location, so working with an experienced third-party reproductive lawyer is crucial. Legal contracts protect all parties’ rights and outline responsibilities, compensation, and parental rights. In many places, pre-birth or post-birth orders are needed to establish intended parents’ legal status.
5. How Much Does Surrogacy Cost?
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Surrogacy costs vary widely but generally range from $90,000 to $150,000 or more. This includes surrogate compensation, medical and IVF fees, agency and legal fees, insurance, and other expenses. Many agencies provide a detailed breakdown upfront to help with financial planning.
6. Can We Stay Involved During the Pregnancy?
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Absolutely! Many intended parents develop a close relationship with their surrogate, attending ultrasounds, prenatal appointments, and even the birth. The level of involvement is agreed upon during the matching phase to ensure everyone’s comfort and can evolve throughout the surrogacy journey.
7. What Happens If the Surrogate Has Pregnancy Complications?
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The surrogate’s health and safety are the top priorities. There are clear medical protocols and insurance policies in place to handle any complications. Open communication and support are essential throughout the pregnancy.
8. Will the Surrogate Bond with the Baby?
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Every surrogate is different, but most understand and embrace their unique role in helping build a family. Many surrogates feel a special connection with the Intended Parents and are excited for the moment the parents get to hold their baby.
9. How Do We Prepare Emotionally for This Journey?
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Surrogacy can be emotionally intense, so building a support network is key. Open communication with your surrogate and agency team is vital. You can also consider counseling or support groups for extra support.
10. What’s the Most Important Advice You Have for Intended Parents?
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Be patient, flexible, and compassionate — both with your surrogate and yourselves. This journey takes time and involves many moving parts. Trust the process, ask questions, and remember the incredible gift of building your family through surrogacy.
Final Thoughts
Surrogacy is a unique and deeply personal journey. While it can feel overwhelming at times, having the right information and support makes all the difference. If you have more questions or want to start your surrogacy journey with confidence, don’t hesitate to reach out to our agency, we can guide you every step of the way.